Friday, January 29, 2016

Day 29- My Trans Girls

As many of you know, I travel the world teaching hot babes classes on vintage hair and makeup techniques. From time to time I get messages like this that elate me and break my heart at the same time. I have always been an outspoken supporter of the LGBTQ community. I don't give a shit that it is a trend right now... I don't care what celebrities are transitioning. My heart has always spoken to me on this topic. I love love. I love people living in the bodies they feel right in. I love people expressing their gender identity however it feels right to them. I love people just coexisting and letting each other be.
When I get emails from trans gals telling me they are afraid to attend or asking my permission to see if it is ok, it makes my little heart hurt. I can't imagine what it is like to live in a world that is so hurtful and judgmental that even attending a class that is meant to be super fun and welcoming fills you with anxiety and fear. I had a trans gal attend my class a few years ago and she was just the sweetest gal I ever met. She sent a similar email but actually asked if it was ok for her to attend. I immediately wrote her back and tried my best to make her feel welcome. At the class, she timidly asked questions and when the class was over, she waited behind everyone to get a picture and was the last to ask. She said she wanted a picture but didn't have a friend with her to take it, so I asked the gal standing next to her if she would mind... and of course she didn't and happily took it for us. My trans lady was so grateful and sweet and I was so happy that I could give her a night that was a positive experience where she felt like just another one of the girls and no one stared or judged or had a shitty attitude.
Today I got this email from a non-binary trans person asking about my classes and expressing apprehension at attending. My favorite part was the little height pun. I love when people can still find humor in a potentially scary situation. I think we will get along just fine!
Even as I am typing this, I am getting all of the feels and my eyeballs are welling up. My hope is that someday everyone will be free to live in the body that they fit and no one will care. Until then, I will keep loving all of my ladies of all sizes, shapes, races, gender identities, and whatever other variations there may be. I will hug you all the same.

19 comments:

  1. I wish that more people thought as you do Cherry. Sadly the reality of it is, is that there is always going to be someone judging or hating. I feel, it's what we do with those negative words thrown at us that makes us who we are. We can either chose to let it empower us or bring us down. I know it is harder for some. People can be cruel. But it makes me glad to know that there are people out there like you and me who will (to quote your words) "hug everyone the same".

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  2. This really was sweet to read... as someone who doesn't really have a label at all because goodness knows what I'd class myself as (a very gentle dude who really transforms wonderfully into a lady but doesn't do it on a regular basis but does love it).... I can sympathise with how this person must feel, trying to fit in with the lovely ladies. I am so humbled by this post, and I thank you for always trying to make us all feel great. I know you've commented lovingly on my photos recently on Shell Belle's page...

    Keep on being amazing,
    Kit Kat (aka Ribby) x

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  3. This blog on Jan 29 is my absolute favorite!! I myself worked at a SALLY BEAUTY SUPPLY store and would always get ladies that were trans gender and as permission to shop , I woudl always tell them everyone is welcome . And they were my most favorite customers . Once walking in with heads hung low and timid and finally when they walk in I woudl tell from the other side their name and strike up a conversation . Hearing all the ridicule and torment they woudl go through literally made me so sad but happy I. Coudl make them happy and smile and have a place to feel loved and welcomed . Befor they woudl leave I woudl always give them a hug and make sure they knew they are loved for them . They are just like us, not a kind of people buy another person ! I envied them , because they could be who they felt they are deep inside and most days I'm confused on who I am or what makes happiness thrive in the soul . Sorry for the long comment but I just love this one and made me tear up . Love your heart cherry you have done so much good in this world for those who needed it ❤️❤️❤️❤️ HONEY HELLKAT

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  4. You are a beautiful soul Cherry x I was super excited when you replied when I told you of loosing all my sight. You were so understanding. I love you are not afraid to speak your mind and that you welcome everyone with loving arms.
    You are a completely awesome chick x
    With love and trillions of respect,
    Antonia Lawrence-Rutherford

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  5. Being Trans, Living in Germany.... I am at the Same Time happy and sad. Happy that there are amazing People like you and on the other Hand that you live so far away that i Will Never be able to meet you and Sharing an amazing Night..... Sorry for my grammat. I am currently crying and it is past Midnight... Just wanted To share my humble thoughts with you....

    Best regards,
    Lucia (24, Berlin Germany)

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    1. Awww! I am sad that I made you cry... but happy that we made a connection from opposite sides of the world. Give yourself a hug for me.

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  6. Cherokee, you have a beautiful kind soul. I dream of a day when more people like you exist in the world, and people like the wonderful lady who wrote to you feel free to truly be themselves, living their life to its fullest like everyone should be able to do. Thank you for being you

    Lauren, UK

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  7. As a cosmetologist, I've had a few occasions (more so in the past few years)to do hair/makeup for tg ladies. Like you so eloquently expressed, each and every one... although very nervous at first was a pleasure to have in my chair. My job is to make every client leave the salon feeling special and I hope I have helped a few people along the way.

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  8. I was so happy to read this post! I too have been a huge supporter of the LGBTQ community since as far back as I can remember. Reading this takes me back to every painful time a gay or trans friend was pushed around or treated horribly for daring to exist. I think these issues are a small part of the larger reason that I became a social worker. I'm months away from completing my Masters, and my thesis centers on issues among those in the trans community. With every new person that I interview I am reminded that we may have come far as a nation, but we have so much further to go. It is difficult to absorb that pain in an hour interview; I can't imagine how it feels to live it daily. Thank you for bringing attention and love to this community. ❤❤❤

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