Thursday, December 15, 2016

Stop Searching for Outrage

I woke up this morning to an inbox FULL of the same comment from my youtube channel. The comment reads "Is that a fucking swastika on your necklace in photo 7 of your photo gallery? Take that shit down"

Not only was this left in my inbox as a private message, it was also left as a comment on dozens of my videos. Before I replied to this lovely lady, I took a deep breath to regroup and phrase my response firmly but with all of the kindness I could muster.

The photo (to the right) was a picture of me from high school. It is black and white. The necklace in question is actually an ANTI swastika-- a type of necklace that was super popular among the punk and ska crowd in the late 90s. This necklace was sold EVERYWHERE. I am sure many of you reading this had one. The circle and cross that made it anti were red. Which means in a black and white photo, it is really hard to see. Ok, I get it. To someone that doesn't know what this necklace is, at first glance it might look like I am just a super nazi.

Here is the thing though... Why did this girl feel the need to blast my social media, outing me as a nazi, before I even had a chance to explain or defend myself? This is a prime example of the beast of human that social media has created. Everyone is just primed and ready for outrage. In fact, people scour every last deep corner for it in hopes that they will be the one to uncover all of our dark, seedy pasts. And ok, I get it-- when you find pictures of Tila Tequila doing nazi salutes at a white supremacist rally, it is pretty hard to explain away. But a 20 year old grainy black and white photo is hardly a smoking gun.

I guess the point of my blog today is to stop the witch hunts. If you find something on the internet that seems suspect and you would like further clarification, ask the poster directly. Don't DEMAND something of a stranger based off of a half baked judgment. And regardless of what it is that you find offensive, it is never your right as a human to make demands of another human. Like it or not we live in a country full of freedoms and being an asshole won't change anyones perspective. There are a lot of things in this world and on the internet that you might not find to your liking. So keep moving. Or get off of the internet and actually make real changes.

Happy Thursday.

14 comments:

  1. I love it, thank you for being so classy and answering in that manner instead of full on rage :)

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  2. I am so sorry to hear that, I think you handled it far better than most would.

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  3. Anyone who follows you online should know you are the farthest thing from a Nazi. You embrace and celebrate people's differences and encourage others to do the same.

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  4. I'm so sorry that you had to deal with this, but you handled it with such grace and dignity. Our world is becoming a scary place breeding pessimism, anger and hate. It seems that people are so much more willing to put others down rather than build each other up. I loved your response and I think it's great that you put this message out there. Thank you for being such a great role model.

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  5. The fact that most people don't even know the original origins & meanings as a good luck symbol would probably make then flip their lids if they saw that too.

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  6. I love how people think they can just demand others to do as they please. "Take that shit down" lol
    Anyone who actually follows you knows that you're not a Nazi.
    Darlene is just following the typical outrage culture.

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  7. Thank you for what you said. I think this is such a great response and so classy. I even loved what you said when the elections were over. This is the beauty of our free country we can say and think anything we like, however, it can be easy to be taken advantage of. Everyone is entitled to form an opinion and everyone should give someone the right to do so without rash demands. By the way I wasn't even looking at the necklace in the photo because I was looking at your beautiful smile. Stay classy, san diego!

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  8. It wasn't until recently that I realised how ancient the swastika actually is. (saw it on tiles of an original kitchen from the Roman era in a museum in Cologne). Thank you for you dignity and how you have responded to this person who has obviously reacted from fear/hate or whatever. You are a beautiful person inside and out, which I have been lucky enough to experience when you were in Australia 2015.

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  9. Well spoken!! Everyone is offended by everything today, and mostly because they are looking to be offended. If you search hard enough, you will eventually find something that will offend you! Even though it shouldnt. Lol

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  10. I'm sorry people have to constantly look for something to get mad about. There's plenty to be outraged about that is REAL. Much love. ❤️

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  11. Nazi... you and all your white power ways. I kid, I kid. The fact that someone would actually think that you were a into white power makes me laugh. Love you and don't let them bring you down.

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  12. Cherry, some folks just plain don't *want* to be happy (and don't you try and make em, dangit!). They have to have something (real or not) to get all hacked off about or they don't know they're alive. Sad way to hafta get your adrenaline rush, if you ask me. To each their own.

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  13. Some people just have too much time on their hands that that they find things to complain about. Great reflection on the matter.

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